If your family is like mine, then you know that everyday life is cluttered. I would love to be one of those people that have learned to live slowly and simply. Someday I will learn those secrets. That day is definitely not today. I currently have a fussy child on my lap, a to-do list that desperately needs more check marks, books that need to be returned, hair and makeup that needs doing, groceries needing to be bought – like I said, it is cluttered. In these messy, filled up days I often forget the big picture.
Over the past month, it has become very clear to my husband and me that we are near-sighted. We see where we are. When we think about our family in the future, we know how we want it to be. We know the feeling we want it to have, the attitudes and values and practices we want to have and share with our children. But we also expect it to fall into place when the time is right. In my experience, it doesn’t work that way. I am still waiting for my magically reshaped pre-preggo body! We have no plans, and no goals. We just hope that someday we will miraculously be the people we want to be.
God has made it clear.
To achieve our goals, to become the family we want to be, we MUST be intentional.
Ugg! One thing I seriously lack is will power! I suppose this is God’s way of beating it into me. But when I think of the alternative, I know that this is worth every effort that Steven and I can put into it.
After several eye-opening conversations between me and Steven, I began wondering what I could do to become an intentional parent and spouse, and what my family as a whole could do. I am very blessed to belong to a Mothers Of Preschoolers group at my church. Last week our lesson was about having a vision for your family (God Thing #1!) The speaker discussed how his family sat down and wrote out what they wanted their family to be. WOW! That is being intentional.
Then, my husband randomly decided that he wanted to watch Courageous (God Thing #2!) Now if you have not seen this movie, I highly recommend that you do. If you have, then you know that the plot focuses around families and fathers taking back their family’s values and priorities.
Steven and I feel it is important for us to have a better grasp on what our family should be, so we have taken several days to talk, pray, and prepare what will be “Our Family Creed.” This is going to be an actual written document that we can hang on the wall so that we will always be reminded of how the Haney family should behave.
This creed is pretty extensive for us, and we are not taking it lightly, so it is taking some time to prepare. We are excited to see the finished product.
Our document is going to include as many aspects of life that we can squeeze in. We will be listing characteristics that we want to be examples of, standards we hold to, and goals– everything from being honest to showing our children how to love and respect their future spouses; from walking with Jesus daily to keeping their bodies healthy; from persevering in school and work to being active in our family. Like I said, there is so much that we want our family to be, it has taken time to work it all out.
What are ways that you are intentional in your family? Do you have plans for your family’s future?
We would love to hear about them!